Better that I think –
I am more attractive than
Society does –
And be happy on my own
Rather than settle for love
Copyright by Minh Tan on listed dated of completion.
Notes to this poem…
A vast majority of women in Nova Scotia, where I live, at least my my dating age range, consider male Asians to be a deal breaker in dating potential. I know this from experiments I did online. Those interested, generally, are also second rate to women interested in other parts of Canada and the US where I have gone with an online dating profile, and have experienced in life. So I’ve consigned myself to being single as long as I live in Nova Scotia because my idea of my market value for dating is far higher than the true value I have here, to put it like an economist would, rather bluntly. However, I’ll tell you one thing. I’d rather that be true, than settle so I could have a partner for the sake of being able to have one! I can make myself happy on my own, and where I feel sad about not having a love in my life, I’ll take that rather than being sad about someone I wouldn’t care much for, just to have a partner at the market value Nova Scotian women attribute me, in general, for a mate. Most I know think I’m pretty good otherwise, as a general friend and human being. They just wouldn’t recommend me to themselves or their friends as a potential date and partner, that’s all.
That said, I want to be clear I’m not bitter about this or think it discriminatory as I did in my youth. I do think one should be able to want to love who one wants, neglecting whomever systematically as one does that would be nothing short of racist otherwise. One’s love isn’t a job where everyone is entitled to it fairly. But, I do have to work with “market conditions” to be practical in my life, and I’m not shy to talk about it with feelings, but I do accept it and am not of the mindset to fight it. I’ll move to get a better shot at love… and I will be doing so in some not too distant future that I don’t know when yet at this time, only that I will be.
The W-series poems comprise mostly of haiku or tanka composed during walks I took on the portion of Halifax’s waterfront known as the Harbourwalk, during the warmer months of 2018 & 2019, when the Seabridge was in place.
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